Blog #15~ Super Nick
“Eeeww” he says as he points down to the bathtub.
I scan the tub surface wondering what Nick is trying to communicate. Then I see a tiny bug writhing around. Where these bugs come from I don’t know, (maybe from inside the pipes?) I only see the creepy critters in the tub. What’s with that? Of course I couldn’t resist turning on the faucet and torturing the defenseless thing watching it fight the swift current that led to the drain.
A few months ago I was shoring up the kitchen and again, Nick pointed at the wall next to the sliding glass window and saying “Eeeww!” There was a trail of tiny ants marching down the side of the crown molding barely seen. I find it interesting how Nick notices everything, especially the smallest of details. It’s near x-ray vision like Superman.
He can scan a room and see something out of place then fix it. The last time the cleaning people came through, the kitchen table was turned at a rakish angle. (Is it just me or does anyone else have a cleaning crew that takes creative license? They are always changing the configuration of furniture or picture frames and knick knacks?) Sure enough as soon as he walked in the door Nick dropped his backpack and pushed it back to its rightful place. Just today, a birthday card fell over and he put it back up.
Later, he pointed up to the ceiling in the kitchen saying “Uh-oh!” I look around to figure out what he is talking about and *lo and behold, one of the light bulbs burned out. Later, he saw a La Croix can in the kitchen garbage and he retrieved it and placed it in the recycle bin. Silly things I know, but I appreciate his attention to detail.
A few weeks ago in Blog # 5 Ready, Set, Action, I mentioned how well he has been doing with unloading the dishwasher. He knows exactly what every cabinet holds down to the last cup, bowl, plate, pan and knife and fork. I wonder if he has been sitting at the kitchen island taking mental notes all these years while Hank was doing the unload. The same thing goes happens with the groceries. He loves to help put everything away and with precision might I add.
Now I wouldn’t say he is a savant by any means. He doesn’t know every single movie that won an Oscar nor what year it was or who had the starring role (like one of Hank’s high school acquaintances that has autism.) He never did obsess with lining up objects in a row. He just seems to have a keen eye that rather fascinates me.
For as long as I can remember, object permanence has been one of Nick’s strengths. “Object permanence is a developmental milestone that a child reaches when he or she realizes that the object exists even when it can’t be seen. The term was coined by child development expert and psychologist Jean Piaget. He studied the concept of object permanence by conducting relatively simple tests on infants. He would show an infant or young baby a toy and then cover it with a blanket. A child who had a clear concept of object permanence might reach for the toy or try to grab the blanket off the toy. A child who had not yet developed object permanence might appear distressed that the toy had disappeared.”
Let me give you an example. When Nick was around age three we would go down to my parent’s house to visit. Every single time, Nick made a beeline to the front bedroom, opened the toy box and pulled out his favorite, the duck musical toy. He did the same thing at my in-laws house heading straight to the bedroom that has the stash of videos and TV/VCR and his musical toys.
When friends come over, it’s always fun to see how long it will Nick to try and grab their car keys. You can see his watchful eye taking note of where they set them down or where a purse is put. He waits and then strikes, scooping them up as he runs to the front door pointing them at their car and pushing the red panic button. That is actually where all this started and preceded to the bigger bang…….fire alarms! Al and I have to hide our keys up high on the top of a kitchen cabinet. In Nick’s mind those red buttons=noise and chaos.
Interesting how the same guy that likes things in their proper place also enjoys creating mayhem. (For more mayhem check out Blog # 3~ Getting Your Goat.) His eagle eye vision can lock down on a fire alarm fast. He looks for the opening too. That moment that you might be distracted fumbling for your sunglasses and keys is when he will make the stealthy move. I can tell you where every single alarm is located in every restaurant and store we frequent around Aurora and Naperville. (By the way the Taco Bell on 75th Street and Rickert is fire alarm free.) The key is to do the quick scan and find them first then sure you position yourself between it and Nick. In addition, it is essential that you are no more than arm’s length from him because he is faster than a speeding bullet! I can always expect a call during summer school about a fire alarm pull. The site is not his regular high school but each year he remembers that there is one alarm sandwiched in between two wall mats that is uncovered. I know he has yanked that particular alarm at least three of the twenty five alarm pulls. Yes, we are holding the tally at twenty five but that won’t last. It’s just a matter of time before he gets one (preferably not with me!)
Who me? But I look so innocent……
So that is what is in my noggin this week, my guy with x-ray vision and faster than a speeding bullet. Hope you enjoyed a slice of Nick’s world, the rest of us are just trying to keep up. Until next week stay cool and thanks for reading my rants, musings and information that hopefully offers some insight about raising a child with special needs. I enjoy your comments…. Keep ‘em coming!
* “Lo and behold” according to The Phrase Finder, is an exclamation, on drawing others attention to something. It is used especially to announce things that are considered startling or important. The phrase is often written with an exclamation mark. Its origin comes from the word “lo” as used in this phrase is a shortening of “look.” So, lo and behold! Has the meaning of look!-behold! It has been used since the first Millennium and appears in the epic poem Beowulf.