Blog #110~Autism Holiday Survival Tips
The Christmas holidays can be a land mine for individuals who have autism. The changes in schedules, crowds, noises and the lights can result in way too much external stimuli to process. My son, Nick is 20 years old and has Down syndrome and autism. As I flip the calendar to December, I can feel my anxiety level begin to arise. We all handle holiday stress in different ways. The movie, Christmas Vacation conveys this so well.
“I don’t know what to say. It’s Christmas and we’re all in misery”
Here are 10 tips for surviving the holidays with your child who has autism:
- Start early, get as much done ahead of time with holiday preparations.
- Don’t rush, allow enough time to get from point A to point B. Give more notice when it is time to transition. This will help to avoid meltdowns.
- Be flexible and relax your expectations over the holidays.
- Pare down where you can, whether it’s decorations, presents, or parties. It’s okay to say no or bow out early.
- When possible try to stick to routines. Sometimes it’s easier to hire a babysitter or respite worker to stay at home with your child while you go to holiday parties.
- Make social stories using visuals or written words (depending on your child’s level of comprehension). This will act as a script for your child to follow. If they can see what’s expected, they will understand the plan and won’t be as anxious.
Task strip for a trip to the mall…..
Task strip for airline travel……
7. Provide pictures of family members and friends that you don’t see that often prior to visiting them. If your child doesn’t like to hug then try a special handshake, high five or Nick’s favorite….
Elbow Bump 🙂
8. Give your child opportunities to help out. Allow them to make choices between two things. This gives them more control during the holidays, (when we all feel a bit out of control at times).
Nick helps out with the luggage, which gives him heavy sensory work….
9. Find a quiet place for your child to unwind. Most of us know how to do this on our own (bubble bath, crack open a bottle of wine, exercise, etc.). But a child with autism can get overstimulated and not know how to decompress. They may need you to help them to settle down and relax.
10. Get rest when you can and take time to pause and reflect on the blessings of the season.
I hope these survival tips will help your family and child with autism. As you flip over the calendar to December today, take a deep breath. Your child will be feeding off your cues, so……
That’s what is in my noggin this week.
Nick and his brother Hank in 1999