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Mom,are you taking care of yourself?

Mom, are you taking care of yourself?

Pour Cup

Today, I took a page out of my own blog.  I took some extra time to do something that I love.  Last week I wrote about the importance of doing so.  Sometimes as moms, we are busy doing so much for others.  We don’t always carve out the time to put ourselves first.

In case you missed the blog last Monday, click below………

https://nickspecialneeds.com/?s=mom

It was a warm, sunny day and just perfect for planting.  Digging my hands is the soil was good for my soul.  Picking out the color palate of flowers and accents, along with some tomato plants is always so enjoyable to me.  It was a nice slice of peace and serenity that helped me to feel restored and energized. 🙂

flowers

I hope all of you moms had a wonderful Mother’s Day.  What are you going to take care of yourself this week?  Give yourself a decadent slice of something sweet that you enjoy, because YOU deserve it!  That’s what is in my noggin this week.

~Teresa 🙂

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Blog #141~Managing Stress as a Special Needs Parent

Blog #141~Managing Stress as a Special Needs Parent

Let’s face it, parenting is stressful.  Being a parent of a special needs child adds even more stress.  It’s a constant state of being on call 24/7, 365 days of the year.  I have been in this state for 22 years with my son Nick, who has Down syndrome and autism.

This weekend, we attended the National Association for Down Syndrome (NADS) retreat.  It is an opportunity for Nick to have fun swimming, playing and doing music therapy.  We’ve been going to this twice a year for the past 11 years.  It is a great group of folks who get it.  You see we don’t fit in to either the Down syndrome support groups or the autism groups.  But at this retreat, we all can openly discuss the unique problems of raising a child with a dual diagnosis of Down syndrome and autism, in addition to  behaviors associated with ADD,ADHD and more.

Nick 2 (2)

At the NADS Down Syndrome and More retreat http://www.nads.org/, Dr. Louis Weiss did a presentation for the parents about taking care of yourself.

He identified areas in our lives that we nurture or neglect:

*Health (mental/physical)

*Relationships (partner, kids, family, friends)

*Work

*Play

Dr. Weiss emphasized the importance of finding your oasis.  How do you recharge your batteries?  What do you do to relax?

relax frog

It is critical to avoid the traps of maladaptive coping for stress with such things as excessive use of drugs/alcohol, sleeping, overeating, withdrawing/avoiding, becoming over-controlling or compulsive (too much screen time or games like candy crush).

Instead, use adaptive coping strategies to restore calm, get centered and refuel.

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Adaptive Coping Strategies:

*Mindfulness Practice

*Meditation

*Prayer

*Exercise, eat well, get enough sleep

*Journaling

*Hobbies (gardening, reading, sports, knitting,etc)

*Use organizing techniques for schedules, tasks, etc.

*Support groups (both in person and online)

*Utilize community resources

*Delegate responsibilities and rebalancing the division of tasks

*Setting limits and sticking to them

*Asking for help. Identify sources of support, including professionals.

Taking care of yourself means taking time for you, and doing so without guilt.  Just like the flight attendants demonstrate, put that oxygen mask on yourself first before you place the one on your child.  And you will both breathe a little easier.

oxygen mask

That’s what is in my noggin this week.

~Teresa

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